A Loving parent unintentionally spoil the child will not be difficult. It is possible to approach pregnancy, to thoroughly prepare for parenthood, but after the long-awaited Chad all the advice and read in numerous books the rules somehow forgotten.
Recommendations for parents, different strategies of proper education and development of children today are provided in any available information sources. But it often happens that parents for a long time do not recognize the problem in his family. When a spoiled child becomes obvious, to change the situation and use other features of education is very problematic.
No adequate parent would not want their education to spoil the future life of the child. Everyone wants their child only the best, and this statement is undeniable true. It might seem like you can hurt the little man with his love and care? But it turns out that it is possible.
Most Often the problem is found spoiled in a family where one child is brought up. And if he is still coveted and long-awaited, then the whole family entourage in the face of moms, dads, grandmothers, aunts and other relatives wish in any way to show their joy.
Naturally, all the attention and care after birth now belongs only new member of the family. And at first glance, this situation is perfectly normal and natural, as a small child as no one else needs care and guardianship. The problem arises when the baby grows up and the halo of the fanatical love and care around him has not dissipated.
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It is Unlikely that someone deliberately wants to spoil the baby and get instead of obedient and cute baby whimsical, hysterical and unruly creature. Naturally, features of education and specific issues exist in every family. But there are several basic reasons why the children are spoiled by parents:
Such zatarivanie many sweets, toys and expensive things can lead another reason. For example, if the parents are almost always on the move or simply are away from home by the perpetual employment on the job. Or in the case when the parents are divorced, and one of them is no longer living with the child. When a missing adult is often a sense of guilt, he tries to make amends. Thus compensating for their absence, the parents bring the child Royal habit “to receive gifts”.
Another reason that the family can spoil a child, are childish insults and complexes of their parents. If we in the childhood were deprived of attention, care, love, toys and, of course, trying to do everything that our child did not know these bitter resentment.
The term “spoiled” means a person who is used to having all their desires and whims. The child, who from childhood was shielded from any problems and worries, growing up, begins to face many problems. It is unadapted to adult and independent life.
Since spoiled from childhood people are not used to achieve their goals myself, in adult life he may be unprepared for the fact that none of it solves nothing. Not getting the desired, such a person may fall into a state of frustration and take a passive wait and see attitude, that is, to expect that everything will resolve itself.
Also, such a person is not clear why the surrounding in adult life people are constantly they do not admire and praise him. Now that no one believes the most intelligent, beautiful and talented man can be in a constant state of frustration. Unfortunately, with that mindset and perception to organize your life successfully will be extremely difficult.
What to do if friends, relatives or friends say that you grow a very spoiled child, but you don't seethe behavior of the baby global problems? Every mother will always justify the favorite child, considering that at least occasionally, but every child has the right to whims, disobedience, and even hysterical.
In order to understand if there is a problem actually, you need to consider several signs confirming that children are spoiled by parents:
Quite often the problems of education become apparent when a spoiled child gets used to achieve their tantrums. This is one of the most common ways to manipulate adults. Sometimes a tantrum can happen unconsciously, as a small child, unlike adults, do not know how to control their emotions. Hysteria from mere Caprice to distinguish easily enough.
Under normal whim of the child may be upset, offended or quietly cry. Hysterical accompanied by violence, uncontrollable crying, children can fall on the floor, scream, stomp their feet, and sometimes even beat the adults.
The problems of education become apparent, if your child started to use such manipulations. Of course, any parent to watch that kid to be hurt, and your child will be very sorry. But to concede in such a situation – so to make it clear that a tantrum works. If, after this behavior, the child will be desired, consider that now you are doomed to constant tantrums.
Culture education of children must be present from an early age. Let the child understand that this behavior to anything will not lead. If a hysterical fit began at home, just leave the baby alone in the room and explain that we will continue the conversation with him only after he calms down.
The Situation is much more difficult when the hysteria begins in a public place. Many parents are lost and are beginning to be shy of others. At this moment they agree to give a small tantrum, but he quickly calmed down. Such behavior is unacceptable and is the most direct way to spoil the baby even more.
If such a thing has happened in the shop, cafe or on the street, just a little step away from the child that he realized that his hysteria no one is watching. Of course, the distance must be such that the parent was watching their child, but the child should understand that his concert was left without an audience. You will be surprised how quickly little tyrant will be able to take myself in hand.
The Correct early education of the child will help avoid numerous problems in the future. To help to develop correct tactics, especially when the family grows one child, you can listen to the advice of teachers and psychologists.
Both parentsmust adhere to uniform principles and tactics of education. If there are grandparents and other relatives, they should support the parents. If one member of the family that prohibits something, the other one in any case should not allow. All family members should clearly understand that the love and pity of a baby, of course. But if you indulge him as a child, then such education does not help him in the future. In adult life this child will have to face many difficulties to which he is not ready.
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