In any human relationship, from time to time there are disagreements. At work and in the family, and in relationships between lovers happen conflict situation. Many people experience them quite painful. And it is in vain. Need to learn how to treat such situations and know how to resolve the conflict.
Psychologists are advised to refer to conflict situations positively - as an opportunity to clarify and even modify a relationship.
When a conflict occurs, is necessary to enable the partner to blow off steam: to try to listen to all his claims calmly and patiently, not interrupting and not commenting. In this case, the internal stress will decrease and you and your opponent.
After emotions spilled out, can be offered to substantiate the claims. Thus it is necessary to monitor the situation, to the opposite side of the conflict again moved from constructive discussion of problems on emotional. If this happens, you need to tactfully steer Wrangler intellectual insights.
To Extinguish the negative feelings of the partner, making him a sincere compliment or reminding him of something good and enjoyable of the past.
Respect for the opponent – a prerequisite to resolve the conflict correctly. It will impress even the extremely angry man. If in such a situation of partner abuse, to get personal, to resolve the conflict just will not succeed.
What to do if the opponent is not able to restrain himself and shouting? Not to break in response swearing!
In case if you feel to blame for the conflict itself, don't be afraid to apologize. Remember that it is only capable intelligent people.
There are some proven techniques on how to resolve the conflict.
Method # 1. Try to imagine yourself as a commentator, watching the fight. Look at the conflict as if from the outside, and above all – over.
Mentally cut off an impermeable cap or body armor – will feel the taunts and nasty words of your opponent like breaking on you put a barrier, and not hurt so badly.
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Seeing from the perspective of the commentator, what qualities you lack in conflict, give them in your mind and continue the dispute as if you have them.
If you do so regularly, missing qualities do appear.
Method # 2. How to resolve a conflict among disputants? This is a very simple technique is often not only helps to relieve stress, but to avoid confrontation. You just need to move away or to move away from the enemy. The closer the conflicting parties physically, the passions are stronger.
Method # 3. Surprise your opponent in the time of the conflict a non-standard phrase or joke. It's just a wonderful way to resolve the conflict. With a person configured to make jokes, swearing hard!
Method # 4. If it is absolutely clear that the other person deliberately provokes conflict, insults and just do not give a chance to respond in such a situation it is better to leave, saying he did not wish to continue the conversation that way. Better to move it "tomorrow."
Taking a time-out, you calm down, get a breather to find the right words. A man who provoked a quarrel, during this time, he will lose his confidence.
A Good command of – the key to a successful exit from a conflict situation.
You Need to learn to restrain emotions and keep calm. In conflict with partners or customers is strictly prohibited.
Psychologists advise to treat the conflict as a positive factor. If at the beginning of building relationships, seeing a conflict moments, not to gloss over them at the root to prevent a serious quarrel.
You Need to try to “put out the fire” before it started. So the best way to resolve the conflict - not to bring up it. After all, in life and without having a lot of difficulties, and nerve cells are still useful.
Often the cause of the confrontation is the accumulation of unspoken negativity. We annoying in the behavior of colleagues or just exasperated some sort of habit a loved one, but he doesn't know how to say this, not to spoil relations. Therefore, silent as the grave. The effect is the opposite. The accumulated annoyance sooner or later spills out in uncontrolled form, which can lead to serious conflict. Therefore it is very important not to bring up the “boiling point”, but quietly and tactfully Express their grievances as soon as they arise.
But there are cases when to avoid conflict is not worth it,because it will help to solve the problem. Knowingly engage in conflict if:
But you need to remember that deliberately going into a conflict to sort things out we must intelligently.
To get out of a conflict situation as quickly as possible and with minimal losses, proposed the following sequence of actions.
1. First of all, the existence of a conflict should be recognized. We cannot allow a situation where people feel the confrontation and act according to their chosen tactics, but openly not talk about it. To resolve such a conflict without joint discussion of the parties will not work.
2. Recognizing the conflict, it is necessary to agree on the negotiations. They can be eye to eye, and with the participation of a mediator who suits both parties.
3. To determine what is the subject of the confrontation. As practice shows, the parties to the conflict often see the problem differently. So you need to find common ground in understanding argument. At this stage it is important to determine whether the convergence.
4. Develop several possible solutions, taking into account all the possible consequences.
5. After considering all options, to dwell on the fact that will satisfy both sides. Record the decision in writing.
6. To implement the decision. If this is not done immediately, the conflict will only deepen, and to conduct re-negotiations will be much more difficult.
We Hope that our tips will help you if not to avoid conflict, to leave them with dignity.
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